DEAR MAN is an approach to communication taught in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). DEAR MAN helps you ask for what you want in a way that’s more likely to get results.
Do you want to ask someone for something, but you’re worried that it will damage your relationship? Or maybe you’re hoping someone will just pick up on the hints you’ve been dropping, because you’re unsure how to tell them what you want? If so, you might need “DEAR MAN”!
[Read more…]Not every relationship is worth preserving. For those relationships you want to maintain or improve, The ‘GIVE’ skills from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) help you do just that.
G — (Be) Gentle. One part of being gentle is to avoid being attacking or threatening in your communication. These types of actions are likely to put others on the defensive and to have a destructive effect on the relationship. This skill is important to use especially when the other person doesn’t do something you’d like them to do. It can be tempting to use anger or threats to change their mind, but this will not help you accomplish your goal of maintaining the relationship. Instead, be willing to take “no” for an answer.
[Read more…]“Teenagers, who are still developing their identities, are especially prone to take psychological labels to heart,” writes the psychologist @darbysaxbe. “Instead of ‘I am nervous about X,’ a teenager might say, ‘I can’t do X because I have anxiety.’”
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